Note: This is a post from Adam Baker, founder of Man Vs. Debt.
I love Danielle LaPorte.
In a sea of experts talking about careers, entrepreneurship, passion, and life… she’s different.
She taught me to be genuine, unique, and passionate – no matter how difficult the process would be. And I owe her big time for that.
Once upon a time, Danielle charged hundreds of dollars (and then thousands of dollars) for one-on-one, in-your-face, no-holds-barred consulting conversations that rocked the worlds of people who had no idea what they had signed up for.
I had one of those conversations with Danielle once – and I walked away with a totally different view of my life and business.
Good news, though. She’s now boiled down all the wisdom from her website, speeches, poems, and one-on-one sessions into a single book.
The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte is now available for preorder.
I rarely suggest you buy a book. But this is the exception. You will love this one.
It’s different, unique, and in a style that both entertains and shocks the system with dozens of a-ha moments. (I think I averaged one a-ha moment per page of the book!)
If you took a highlighter to this book – the entire thing would be yellow!
One of my favorite things about The Fire Starter Sessions is what Danielle calls the “Burning Questions” in Chapter 4 (around page 80).
As I read the questions in the book, I remembered Danielle’s voice asking me them on the phone. Even now, it’s fun to see how my answers and perspective have changed over the years.
Question #1: When someone at a party asks you “What Do You Do,” what do you say? And how do you feel when you say it?
Wowzers, did this one hit me hard at different points in my life. I’ve always hated the “What Do You Do” question – even if I fall back on it myself in awkward situations at times.
I never had a good answer, because I always lacked confidence. And when I say “good” answer, I mean good to me. I never had an answer my own self was proud of.
When I admitted how I really felt when I answered – and how I always talked in circles explaining what I did – it clicked that something was wrong. I started not only changing how I answered, but what I actually did.
Question #2: When do you feel powerful, passionate, free, incredibly useful, excited, inspired?
This was another tough, tough question for me to answer honestly at first. But the more I ask myself, the better I get at honing in on those times.
This is now the first piece of advice I give to anyone who comes to me and is “dead inside” from years and years of work that suffocates and traps them. Many have been out of tune with their positive, powerful, or free feelings for so long they can’t even remember them!
However, if you can be honest and up-front when you feel at your utmost best in life – you’ll have a big, blinking light guiding you toward your passion.
Question #3: What’s chronic, repetitive, or inflamed in your inner or outer life?
Yikes, now we are getting deep.
Every major hurdle I’ve had in my business or life has been directly related to honestly identifying an inflamed or chronic habit, person, or ideal that has plagued my progress. Seriously, every instance I can remember.
I don’t like dwelling on the negative, but this question is about more than just complaining on the symptoms. This bites down to the problem itself.
When I’m honest about what’s really out-of-whack (specifically, not generally) and take action to break away from it – well, it’s painful up front – but oh so freeing after that.
Question #4: What’s always in the back of your mind?
The back of my mind is a scary, scary place.
Like really scary.
But it’s also where my true passions, dreams, and ability to impact to others nestles most of the time.
As a society, we are taught to conform. To push our outside-the-box, scary, and uncomfortable ideas and values to the back of our minds.
Danielle helped give me permission to examine what’s been back there (sometimes for years). And I owe her big time for that!
These are just 4 of almost a dozen burning questions in just one chapter of The Fire Starter Sessions.
It’s slammed with life-changing tidbits. It’s well worth the small investment and well worth your time reading it.
This thing will make you want to kick ass and take names – in whatever project you want to tackle next.
Pick one of the questions in this post and answer it in the comments:
- When someone at a party asks you “What Do You Do,” what do you say?
- When do you feel powerful, passionate, free, incredibly useful, excited, inspired?
- What’s chronic, repetitive, or inflamed in your inner or outer life?
- What’s always in the back of your mind?
Go ahead, pick one. Let me know your answer!