Comments on: Hulk Vs. Eeyore: A Simple 6-Step Process to Overcoming Friction in Life

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Fri, 20 May 2011 14:32:49 +0000

This is so true! I am this way and so is my daughter and I’ve really been trying to help the both of us.
Thanks!

By: If You Don’t Ask, The Answer is Always No

If You Don’t Ask, The Answer is Always No — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 15:18:46 +0000

[...] this ghetto name. Only I know what it is, so it’s useless to everyone but me. I tend to do this a lot. [...]

By: Roger

Roger — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 17:20:58 +0000

Fantastic post (and not just because the title makes me thing of a horribly unbalanced fight between a raging beast and a stuffed donkey). I have a tendency towards more Eeyore mode myself (I never really get very angry) and I always have to remind myself to keep things in perspective and keep upbeat. I've gotten better at it over the decades (I was really bad back in elementary school, believe it or not), but I still have to tell myself to buck up every now and again. Just have to keep it, I suppose. .-= Roger´s last blog ..Weekly Thoughts: Start the Giving Season =-.

By: kosmo @ The Casual Observer

kosmo @ The Casual Observer — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:19:34 +0000

I try to adopt a principle of materiality (a theory I learned in accounting class years ago). If the issue is a large issue, it’s OK to dig my feet in and fight. If it’s a minor thing – especially if it’s a one-time issue and I have zero chance of changing it – I just let it go. My happiness is worth something – I’m not going to put myself in a bad mood because of something trivial.
.-= kosmo @ The Casual Observer´s last blog ..Interview with Baker from ManVsDebt =-.

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 07:02:16 +0000

One thing I’d like to mention is that the Eeyore-mode can often lead to the Hulk-mode. Well at least for me. I’m pretty calm most of the times and reacting to friction or coming up with solutions feels like it takes too much energy. So a lot of the times I just say screw it and move on. But I have found that doing this over and over somehow builds up and fuels the HULK that is within me. Then BAM! Hulk is out on a rampage. Just like that.

I have been making a conscious effort because I really don’t want to be Hulk, especially around the girlfriend so I have made huge strides since I’ve started.

I have found that deep breathing really helps. And when in doubt..just WOOOSAAH!
.-= Mike´s last blog ..Show Me Yours and I’ll Show You Mine =-.

By: Randall

Randall — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 04:17:44 +0000

Just breathe and the answer will come! .-= Randall´s last blog ..Your nuts! You just don't know it! Stop it! =-.

By: Zoli Cserei

Zoli Cserei — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 19:23:23 +0000

Hi Adam,

Those three kinds of reactions that you listed also apply to my experiences too. I’m still quite new here, but am I wrong if I say that your hulk attitude might have also disappeared due to that cute smile on the face of the baby who is featured in your header? These awesome little creatures make us become more.. peaceful, I believe

Best wishes,
Zoli

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 15:51:11 +0000

Gin and tonic. Kidding, of course. Whiskey. Again, kidding.

I’m at the stage now that recognizing “the Hulk” (I don’t seem to have an Eeyore) is 90% of the battle. Once I recognize it, I stop talking. Collect my thoughts. Proceed.

By: Evolution Of Wealth

Evolution Of Wealth — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 14:32:37 +0000

It doesn’t look like anyone has asked so I have to…Is there any significance to looking down and to the right? What about raising your left hand to face level?
I’ve learned a little bit about NLP and down and to the right is a kinesthetic movement which would tap into feelings. It would take a lot of human control to change you current feelings with this approach. It should in face strengthen your current feelings. So if you are Hulk or Eeyore it should make you more so. I could be wrong though and are in no way a psychologist.
You could try up and to the right. That should create a constructed visualization which is often used when lying. This might help you shift your mood more readily. They also say you cannot cry while looking up. As I said I don’t necessarily know what I’m talking about.
Great article. I think we can all relate to it. Realization of your behaviors are what allows you to change.
.-= Evolution Of Wealth´s last blog ..What Is Your Greatest Asset? =-.

By: Hunniebun

Hunniebun — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 14:08:20 +0000

Well put! I tend to reserve my Hulk-mode for my poor unsuspecting husband, my eeyore-mode for strangers (as there is little I dread more than public confrontation…best to keep that behind closed doors!) and my positive solution oriented mode for work. Since I haven’t been to work in nearly 11 months due to my son’s arrival…I have to admit my solution-oriented skills appear to be a little out of practice and Hulk/Eeyore have taken over. So I have been making an effort (even before your timely blog) to use the non-reaction approach with my family (Isn’t it easier to over look the dirty coffee cup that is now sitting beside the computer than it is to pop a blood vessel over it?). It always seems to be easiest to be the hardest on the ones we love…and reserve our polite solution oriented ways for strangers or co-workers! Sad but true. But no more! Today is a new day…